Ep 121. Why Try?

Guilt and shame are not useful emotions and not necessary. Everything that happened in the past is exactly how it was supposed to happen. The decisions you made. The events you cherish and the ones you wish you could erase forever. All of it is right on track. In addition, making the best choice you can is important, but there is no wrong choice. You will make it right. You don’t need to prove your value or worth. You really don’t. All of these things I teach tend to cause people to ask me, “If this is true then why try? Why not live a life of indulgence and even selfishness?” The answer? Because human beings have a basic need to grow, contribute and be love. We’re not satisfied with mastery because mastery is boring. We’re not satisfied with ease and comfort all the time because we’re designed for so much more. When you recognize that you crave challenge, you have a need to stretch and grow, and you are love at your core, you realize that trying is just part of who you are. And you don’t need to feel shame, guilt, resentment, self-pity or regret to try. In fact the opposite is true. Feel compassion and love and empowerment and that, is how you truly evolve.

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  1. Metta Prieto says:

    Jody, Jody, Jody…

    Thank you, of course, always (almost always).

    I *think* you’re bigger than this. Please don’t perpetuate the message that those of us who left the church are somehow unfulfilled. If it looks like we’re all having fun on Sundays, it’s because we are having fun on Sundays. The messaging in the church already drives huge wedges between active members and their friends/family who are engaging in “wickedness” and are out in the “dark and dreary world”, and you are SO MUCH BIGGER THAN THIS. If people are wondering how to make sense of the fact that other people who have left the church seem more carefree and happy than they are, just remind them that we’re not wicked, we just don’t have a testimony anymore, so we don’t go to church. Bam. It’s just that simple. Kthanks.

    Also, do you ever have this really weird feeling like you’re trapped between on one hand doubling down in the trenches with your target audience (Mormon women) for the sake of showing up 100% for your business, and on the other hand getting in there and seeing all of the harm and hurt that the church messaging has caused it’s womenfolk, and being like “Ahhhh! Get me outta here!”? Just curious.

    Thanks!

    Metta

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  2. Rebecca says:

    Love this and am tempted to have my teenagers listen too! You don’t by chance have a bold new kid series?!;)

    I’d love your recommendations on self help podcasts for kids/teens.

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