Today I’m teaching you about mental, emotional and physical health. It’s a longer episode because this topic is so all encompassing but make sure you listen to the end where I teach you about how to utilize what we know about human nature and the brain to lose weight without relying on willpower.

This is the first of a 5 part series on the Be Bold Pillars. All of the tools I teach are centered around these 5 areas and focusing on these areas is the key to living an amazing life where you grow and thrive, reach your full potential and leave the world a better place. In today’s episode on relationships, you’ll learn why a relationship is just the way you think about the other person. It’s not based on their behavior or thoughts or feelings about you. We’ll apply this concept to friendships, marriage relationships, and your relationship with your parents or in-laws. Tune in and lets take your relationships to a place of love like Christ demonstrated for us.

I learned so much from reading Carol Dweck’s book about a growth versus a fixed mindset that helped me really recognize a lot of fixed mindset early on in my daughter. On today’s episode I’m teaching what Dweck has discovered through her research and how to talk to your kids in a way that fosters a growth mindset to set them up for confidence and fulfillment. But for the majority of this episode I’m interviewing my 10-year-0ld daughter Macy. I wanted to give you a real life example of how I talk to my kids about the things I teach here on this podcast. It’s not perfect, but it is real. My hope is it will be useful to you and possibly appropriate for your young daughters to hear as well. Enjoy.

Our brains are really good at noticing what we don’t want, what’s not right, and what we need to stop doing. But the things we focus on are the things we give energy, attention and power to. So if you have a habit you are trying to change, try focusing on what you want to START doing instead of focusing on what you want to STOP doing. This is challenging to figure out in many cases which means it’s no wonder we have a hard time changing course. I’m going to teach you today how this is useful when it comes to eating healthier and having more money. Listen up and see what I mean.

I’ve learned so many things as I’ve built this business over the last few years and I want to share it with you to help you achieve the goals you are working towards. I’ve had so much help from mentors, support from family, and divine guidance that I can’t take the credit for, but today I will be sharing the mindsets I have that I believe have allowed me to utilize all of it to help people and reach my goals. Some of them I already had when I began but many of them I had to intentionally choose to believe. I still have beliefs that are not what I want them to be and I’ll share those with you today. They are:

  1. Shoot for B- work.
  2. I only need to take one step at a time.
  3. Consistency over perfectionism.
  4. I guess I’ll just have to get good at that then.
  5. Just watch me.
  6. I’m sick and tired of not being an expert at this.
  7. It’s not about me.

I’m still working on getting leverage over these limiting beliefs but I haven’t been able to let go of them yet:

  1. I’m not very good at delegating.
  2. I’m not very organized or good with details.
  3. This is getting overwhelming and confusing.

Listen if I can manage my mind to reach my goals, I guarantee you can too.

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Surprise! It’s a Thanksgiving bonus episode to make sure you get exactly what you want for Christmas or any other time. Check it out and have an awesome holiday.

I love it when you put a request out and people show up in droves to make it happen. I asked for your help getting Hank Smith on the podcast and you all pulled through. Thanks so much for helping make it happen. I love this conversation with Hank and I know you will too. We talk about depression with our youth and how as parents we can create openness and trust in the home to allow us to help them through it. We also talk about how to remain positive when it feels like the world is full of tragedy, the importance of your social circle, and much more. If you know Hank Smith, you know you’ll be laughing as you learn on today’s episode. Thanks to Hank for his time and please enjoy today’s episode.

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Guilt and shame are not useful emotions and not necessary. Everything that happened in the past is exactly how it was supposed to happen. The decisions you made. The events you cherish and the ones you wish you could erase forever. All of it is right on track. In addition, making the best choice you can is important, but there is no wrong choice. You will make it right. You don’t need to prove your value or worth. You really don’t. All of these things I teach tend to cause people to ask me, “If this is true then why try? Why not live a life of indulgence and even selfishness?” The answer? Because human beings have a basic need to grow, contribute and be love. We’re not satisfied with mastery because mastery is boring. We’re not satisfied with ease and comfort all the time because we’re designed for so much more. When you recognize that you crave challenge, you have a need to stretch and grow, and you are love at your core, you realize that trying is just part of who you are. And you don’t need to feel shame, guilt, resentment, self-pity or regret to try. In fact the opposite is true. Feel compassion and love and empowerment and that, is how you truly evolve.

Studies show that 100% of our kids will view pornography by age 18. On episode 111 I talked about some useful ways to think about porn when this happens or if you have a spouse who views it. Today we’re continuing the conversation about this important and sensitive topic. I believe knowledge is power and the more we know about the effects of pornography and useful ways to interact with one another, the more we’ll be able to show up as our best, most loving, most capable selves. Dr. Brian Willoughby is one of the top scholars on this topic and a Professor at BYU. I found his insights and research to be fascinating and empowering and I know you will too. Whether you have a loved one who views pornography or you want to empower yourself for the day your kids view it, trust me… you don’t want to miss this episode.

Most people are living their lives unconscious of what is creating their emotions and a portion of this includes mirroring the emotions of others. We get mad that our husbands are mad about something. We worry about our children when they are worried. We feel negative about our sisters’ negativity. This is a tool I use with my clients to gain awareness which is the first step to creating a more peaceful life. When you recognize your brain is just mirroring emotions, you can choose a different emotion instead. You get off the roller coaster of being at the affect of the people around and instead decide for yourself what you want in your life.